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You’re Not Too Much

Trainer Tip Listen to your own Self. If you listen to that Self within, then you find the Truth. —Kabir I used to feel guilty if I had a need that somebody else didn’t have. I told myself that if I wanted intimacy and my partner didn’t, then there must be something wrong with me. Or, if I wanted fun and my partner wanted to rest, then I was too much, too needy, or too selfish. It did not occur...
What is the Shadow?

What parts of yourself or others are hard to embrace, acknowledge or even notice? What parts do others have difficulty embracing, acknowledging or noticing? Why do we sometimes misunderstand our own and others' motives? Why do we condemn, loathe, hate, deny, judge or feel shame around parts of self and other? This article talks about the hidden parts of ourselves that shapes our views and...
Mourning Our Way to Acceptance

When something happens that we don't like no amount of resentment nor magical thinking will make it disappear. Instead, we can mourn to dissolve our own resistance, resentment, and numbness of resignation. Mourning can allow us to feel pain with acceptance, and without needing to be okay with what happened. Acceptance can bring us to a place where even all the anguish in the world is fully,...
Keeping Our Perspective

Trainer Tip Every man has a right to be valued by his best moment. —Ralph Waldo Emerson One of my clients recently told me of a situation at her office. She had just completed her third year with her organization. She had received exemplary annual reviews every previous year. She made a mistake a few weeks earlier that caused the company to lose money, and she was reprimanded harshly. Her...
Living Our Values

Trainer Tip We live in a vastly complex society which has been able to provide us with a multitude of material things, and this is good, but people are beginning to suspect that we have paid a high spiritual price for our plenty. —Euell Gibbons Sometimes I wish everyone else would just make it easy for me to live my values. If other people would just do their part, I wouldn’t have to work so...
Living Peacefully, Starting With Our Physical Selves

Trainer Tip Our physical body possesses a wisdom which we who inhabit the body lack. We give it orders which make no sense. —Henry Miller I spent years abusing my physical self with alcohol, cigarettes, and food. I believe I do not live peacefully if I am not at peace with my body. I have not had a cigarette in twelve years, or alcohol in seven years, yet I still struggle to feed my body...
Striving for Win-Win Resolutions

Trainer Tip In the middle of difficulty lies opportunity. —Albert Einstein In Nonviolent Communication, we strive for win-win resolutions. That means that no one loses. We don’t decide things by the majority, because that would mean that the minority loses. Compromise is similar. In fact, in a compromise both people could feel dissatisfied with the resolution because it usually involves an...
Sustaining Our World

Trainer Tip This is how a human being can change: There’s a worm addicted to eating grape leaves. Suddenly, he wakes up, call it grace, whatever, Something wakes him, and he’s no longer a worm. He’s the entire vineyard, and the orchard too, The fruit, the trunks, a growing wisdom and joy That doesn’t need to devour. —Rumi The world’s people are consuming its resources at an alarming rate. We...
Fear and Trust Facing the Year Ahead

At the boundary between 2021 and 2022, looking out over the future landscape of the coming year, I see conflict, violence and suffering growing and spreading in the world, And I also see, at the heart of the dissolution, a tremendous light getting brighter and brighter, brilliant and beautiful. Sharing with a dear friend and mentor about my relationship with fear and doubt, he asks, “What do...
MLK, Nonviolence, and Communication

Today in the U.S. is the holy-day each year we celebrate and honor the life and legacy of Martin Luther King, Jr., his nonviolent approach to social change calling society towards the soaring ideals enshrined in the U.S. Declaration of Independence of freedom and equality for all. Dr. King was a tremendous light shining out from a long lineage going back to Mahatma Gandhi in India,...